We engaged in conversation that commanded our full attention – shoulders and chest leaning forward, with a steady and consistent gaze punctuated by attentive listening.
Our friend, currently experiencing the pains of sudden change and the uncomfortable growth that comes with it, posed an open-ended question to the group. She sought answers to ease the emotional turmoil – turning to podcasts, books, and conversations for guidance. A piece of media that resonated with her stated that to thrive, we need three things: health, relationships, and purpose. She was confident in her health and relationships but unsure about her purpose. She asked the group how we find it. I thought momentarily and responded: Don’t look for it.
Those who seek purpose will not find it, yet purpose will find those who do not seek it. This is because a purpose is lofty, existing in the clouds. It’s like standing at the base of a mountain – to reach the peak above the clouds, we must take a simple step.
To begin, find an interest. Interests are grounded and approachable. They are tasks, hobbies, activities, thoughts, or ideas. We pass by them, effortlessly engage with some, and unconsciously mull over others. Like the mountaineer, we turn walking – something so mundane – into an energizing pursuit. Play with the ideas that consistently occupy our attention. Engage in activities that we do for the sake of doing.
The next step is transforming that interest into a passion. The path is pedestrian: passion equals consistency plus time. Understand that half the battle is showing up. Focus on the process. Consistency is our ally; time is our teacher.
With these two in tandem, passion evolves into purpose. Like climbing the mountain, we suddenly realize we’re in the clouds. We chose to focus and hone our skills, and the purpose presented itself. It’s authentic and organic this way. We do not force or pressure; we relax and release into the craft. An interest becomes a passion, and then, we stumble upon a purpose.
